Maybe we pay too much attention to how other people treat us and forget about how we respond or act to certain conditions. As humans who live side by side with other people, we cannot control how other people should behave towards us or how we want to be treated, because apart from that there are many things that we have to allow to happen because they are beyond our control.
This doesn’t mean we just keep quiet and surrender when we are treated unfairly by other people, we are also allowed to voice things that disturb our comfort in appropriate ways. It would even be better if we could treat others the way we want to be treated. From my experience, I have learned that by showing them how to treat ourselves well, people who have emotional sensitivity will give the same treatment to us. For example, by showing your inner boundaries, not putting yourself down, and continuing to try to be humble and willing to learn. Things like that will make it easier for people who are willing to dedicate their time and energy to understanding other people. So sometimes life is about mutual reactions.
Even though there are times when life doesn’t go smoothly and always according to our expectations. Several types of people vent their emotions about their problems to others so that people affected by their acts receive unfair treatment. It’s a blessing if the person is willing to accept reprimand or advice, what’s unfortunate is if the person is not aware of the emotions that are within themselves, it is easier to blame other people, instead of correcting themselves. When we are in this situation, what we need is to pause and look from the outside — don’t just absorb it. It could be that we make mistakes, and if that’s the case then we should wisely reflect on our mistakes and correct them so that they don’t happen again. However, once we think clearly and truly realize that we have done nothing wrong, then it is best not to be offended by their treatment. Because this is where we can understand that how they treat other people is a reflection of themselves and their character (especially if they do this repeatedly; taking out their emotions on other people).
Then what should we do? Surely, it depends on each individual because everyone has their own way of dealing with a problem. The wisest way is to be silent and not reactive to the situation, even if the person who blames us doesn’t want to correct themselves then there is nothing that needs to be proven as long as we know that we are innocent and have communicated it politely. The way we respond to something is a reflection of our character, not depending on how we are treated — as long as we did nothing wrong.
